Book Summary: The Power of Habit p3

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“When you learn to force yourself to go to the gym or start your homework or eat a salad instead of a hamburger, part of what’s happening is that you’re changing how you think. People get better at regulating their impulses. They learn how to distract themselves from temptations. And once you’ve gotten into that willpower groove, your brain is practiced at helping you focus on a goal.”

“When you learn to force yourself to practice for an hour or run fifteen laps, you start building self- regulatory strength. A five-year-old who can follow the ball for ten minutes becomes a sixth grader who can start his homework on time.”

Starbucks taught their employees how to handle moments of adversity by giving them willpower habit loops. One of the systems we use is called the LATTE method. We Listen to the customer, Acknowledge their complaint, Take action by solving the problem, Thank them, and then Explain why the problem occurred.

How willpower becomes a habit: by choosing a certain behavior ahead of time, and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives.

“When people are asked to do something that takes self- control, if they think they are doing it for personal reasons— if they feel like it’s a choice or something they enjoy because it helps someone else— it’s much less taxing. If they feel like they have no autonomy, if they’re just following orders, their willpower muscles get tired much faster.

Giving employees a sense of control improved how much self- discipline they brought to their jobs.

firms are guided by long- held organizational habits, patterns that often emerge from thousands of
employees’ independent decisions. And these habits have more profound impacts than anyone previously understood.

Routines provide the hundreds of unwritten rules that companies need to operate. They provide a kind of “organizational memory,”

Companies aren’t families. They’re battlefields in a civil war.

Book Summary: Daring Greatly p6

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CHAPTER 3
UNDERSTANDING AND COMBATING SHAME
(AKA, GREMLIN NINJA WARRIOR TRAINING)

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That’s why it loves perfectionists.

We have to be vulnerable if we want more courage; if we want to dare greatly.

It’s the epitome of daring greatly. But because of how you were raised or how you approach the world, you’ve knowingly or unknowingly attached your self-worth to how your product or art is received. In simple terms, if they love it, you’re worthy; if they don’t, you’re worthless.

If you’re wondering what happens if you attach your self-worth to your art or your product and people love it, let me answer that from personal and professional experience. You’re in even deeper trouble. Everything shame needs to hijack and control your life is in place. You’ve handed over your self-worth to what people think. You’re officially a prisoner of “pleasing, performing, and perfecting.”

When our self-worth isn’t on the line, we are far more willing to be courageous and risk sharing our raw talents and gifts.

A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere. Shame keeps us small, resentful, and afraid.

The secret killer of innovation is shame. You can’t measure it, but it is there.

☣️ Shame becomes fear. Fear leads to risk aversion. Risk aversion kills innovation. ☣️

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable. That’s why it loves perfectionists—it’s so easy to keep us quiet.

WHAT IS SHAME AND WHY IS IT SO HARD TO TALK ABOUT IT?

the first three things that you need to know about shame:

  1. We all have it.
  2. We’re all afraid to talk about shame.
  3. The less we talk about shame, the more control it has over our lives.

shame is the fear of disconnection. We are psychologically, emotionally, cognitively, and spiritually hardwired for connection, love, and belonging.

Twelve “shame categories” have emerged from my research:

Appearance and body image
Money and work
Motherhood/fatherhood
Family

Parenting
Mental and physical health
Addiction
Sex
Aging
Religion
Surviving trauma
Being stereotyped or labeled

Neuroscience advances confirm what we’ve known all along: Emotions can hurt and cause pain.

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Book Summary: Daring Greatly p5

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Chapter 2 (continued)

The willingness to show up changes us. It makes us a little braver each time.

In the song “Hallelujah,” Leonard Cohen writes, “Love is not a victory march, it’s a cold and it’s a broken hallelujah.” Love is a form of vulnerability and if you replace the word love with vulnerability in that line,
it’s just as true.

MYTH #2: “I DON’T DO VULNERABILITY”

When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown up we would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept vulnerability. To be alive is to be vulnerable. Madeleine L’Engle

MYTH #3: VULNERABILITY IS LETTING IT

Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust.

Vulnerability is about
sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them. Being vulnerable and open is mutual and an integral part of the trust-building process.

We need to feel trust to be vulnerable and we need to be vulnerable in order to trust.

When the people we love or with whom we have a deep connection stop caring, stop paying attention, stop investing, and stop fighting for the relationship, trust begins to slip away and hurt starts seeping in.

With children, actions speak louder than words. Because they can’t articulate how they feel about our disengagement when we stop making an effort with them, they show us by acting out, thinking, This will get their attention.

Trust is a product of vulnerability that grows over time and requires work, attention, and full engagement. Trust isn’t a grand gesture—it’s a growing marble collection.

MYTH #4: WE CAN GO IT ALONE

Going it alone is a value we hold in high esteem in our culture, ironically even when it comes to cultivating connection. I have that rugged individualism in my DNA.

Most of us are good at giving help, but when it comes to vulnerability, we need to ask for help too.

Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help. We all need help. 🤗

Vulnerability begets vulnerability; courage is contagious.

Going back to Roosevelt’s “Man in the Arena” speech, I also learned that the people who love me, the people I really depend on, were never the critics who were pointing at me while I stumbled.

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.

Sometimes our first and greatest dare is asking for support. 🌹

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Book Summary: The Power of Habit p2

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For habits to permanently change, people must believe that change is feasible.

If we keep the same cue and the same reward, a new routine can be inserted.

For a habit to stay changed, people must believe change is possible.

If you want to quit smoking, figure out a different routine that will satisfy the cravings filled by cigarettes.

If you want to change a habit, you must fi nd an alternative routine, and your odds of success go up dramatically when you commit to changing as part of a group.

The habits that matter most are the ones that, when they start to shift, dislodge and remake other patterns.

Individuals have habits; groups have routines. Routines are the organizational analogue of habits.

“Highly self-disciplined adolescents outperformed their more impulsive peers on every academic-performance variable,” the researchers wrote. “Self-discipline predicted academic performance more robustly than did IQ. Self- discipline also predicted which students would improve their grades over the course of the school year, whereas IQ did not. . . . Self- discipline has a bigger effect on academic performance than does intellectual talent.”

“If you want to do something that requires willpower— like going for a run after work— you have to conserve your willpower muscle during the day.” “If you use it up too early on tedious tasks like writing emails or filling out complicated and boring expense forms, all the strength will be gone by the time you get home.”

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Book Summary: Daring Greatly p4

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Daring Greatly

CHAPTER 2
DEBUNKING THE VULNERABILITY MYTHS

There’s no equation where taking risks, braving uncertainty, and opening ourselves up to
emotional exposure equals weakness.

MYTH #1: “VULNERABILITY IS WEAKNESS.”

The perception that vulnerability is weakness is the most widely accepted myth about vulnerability and the most dangerous.

We’ve come to the point where, rather than respecting and appreciating the courage and daring behind
vulnerability, we let our fear and discomfort become judgment and criticism.

I define vulnerability as uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure.

Love is uncertain. It’s incredibly risky. And loving someone leaves us emotionally exposed. 💔

To put our art, our writing, our photography, our ideas out into the world with no assurance of acceptance or appreciation—that’s also vulnerability.

we’ve confused feeling with failing and emotions with liabilities.

The research taught me that the best place to start is with defining, recognizing, and understanding vulnerability.

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.

We are totally exposed when we are vulnerable.

According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the word vulnerability is derived from the Latin word vulnerare, meaning “to wound.” The definition includes “capable of being wounded” and “open to attack or damage.” Merriam-Webster defines weakness as the inability to withstand attack or wounding.

“Far from being an effective shield, the illusion of invulnerability undermines the very response that would have supplied genuine protection.”

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