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Book Summary: Daring Greatly p15

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THE SHIELD: NUMBING

We are a culture of people who’ve bought into the idea that if we stay busy enough, the truth of our lives won’t catch up with us. Statistics dictate that there are very few people who haven’t been
affected by addiction. I believe we all numb our feelings. We may not do it compulsively and chronically, which is addiction, but that doesn’t mean that we don’t numb our sense of vulnerability. And numbing vulnerability is especially debilitating because it doesn’t just deaden the pain of our difficult
experiences; numbing vulnerability also dulls our experiences of love, joy, belonging, creativity, and empathy. We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light. ☀️

Americans today are more debt-ridden, obese, medicated, and addicted than we ever have been. For the first time in history, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) has announced that automobile
accidents are now the second leading cause of accidental death in the United States. The leading cause? Drug overdoses. In fact, more people die from prescription drug overdoses than from heroin, cocaine, and methamphetamine drug use combined. The dealers today are more likely to be parents, relatives, friends, and physicians.👨🏻‍⚕️🥼℞☤🩺👩🏻‍⚕️💊

The primary driver of numbing would be our struggles with worthiness and shame: We numb the pain that comes from feeling inadequate and “less than.” Anxiety and disconnection also emerged as drivers of numbing in addition to shame. The most powerful need for numbing seems to come from combinations of all three—shame, anxiety, and disconnection.

The anxiety described by the research participants appeared to be fueled by uncertainty, overwhelming and competing demands on our time, and (one of the big surprises) social discomfort.

Disconnection includes a range of experiences that encompassed depression but also included loneliness,
isolation, disengagement, and emptiness.

Anxiety with shame rising. Disconnection with shame rising. Anxiety and disconnection with shame rising.

Shame enters for those of us who experience anxiety because not only are we feeling fearful, out of control, and incapable of managing our increasingly demanding lives, but eventually our anxiety is compounded and made unbearable by our belief that if we were just smarter, stronger, or better, we’d
be able to handle everything. Numbing here becomes a way to take the edge off of both instability and inadequacy.

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The Millionaire Fastlane: Chapters (31-32) Summary

The Commandment
of Entry

Our plans miscarry because they have no aim.
When a man does not know what harbor he is making for,
no wind is the right wind.
~ Seneca

You Can Be the Sheep or the Sheepherder

The Commandment of Entry states that as entry barriers to any business road fall, or lessen, the effectiveness of that road declines while competition in that field subsequently strengthens.

I spotted the signs of “everyone is doing it,” because if everyone were rich, “everybody is doing it” would work.

If you want to live unlike everyone, you can’t be like everyone. Don’t confuse that with exceptionality. You have to lead the pack and have “everyone” follow. When the lambs are lining up single-file for slaughter, you want to own the slaughterhouse.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
••The Commandment of Entry states that as entry barriers fall, competition rises and the road weakens.
•• Easy access roads carry more traffic. More traffic generates higher competition, and higher competition creates lower margins for the participants.
•• Businesses with weak entry often lack control and operate in saturated marketplaces.
•• Exceptionalism is required to overcome weak entry barriers.
••Access to a business road should be a process with a toll, not an event.
••“Everyone” consists of the general populous and is served by the mainstream media.
•• If everyone were wealthy, “everybody is doing it” would work. And if everyone is wealthy, then no one is wealthy.
••“Everyone is doing it” is a signal to overbought conditions and the entrance of “dumb money.”

The Commandment
of Control

There is no dependence that can be sure
but a dependence on one’s self.
~ John Gay

Demand the Driver’s Seat
Yes or no. You’re either driving the Fastlane or you aren’t. You’re either in control over your financial plan or you aren’t. There is no in between.

Good Money Versus Big Money
There is a difference between good money, big money, and legendary money. Good money is $20,000/month.

Think Shark, Not Guppy
If you lived in an aquarium, would you rather be the shark or the guppy? Sharks eat . . . guppies get eaten.

Invest in Your Brand Only!
Whose money tree are you growing? Are you investing in your brand or in someone else’s?

When you blindly invest your life and time into someone else’s brand, you become a part of their marketing plan.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
•• Hitchhikers relinquish control of their business to a Fastlaner.
••There is a difference between “good” money and “big” money. Hitchhikers can make good money while Fastlaners make big money. Sometimes legendary money.
•• In a driver/hitchhiker relationship, the driver always retains control and the hitchhiker is at the mercy of the driver.
•• Hitchhikers are party to someone else’s Fastlane plan.

••Make the world your habitat of play in an organization you control.
•• Network marketing has little to do with entrepreneurship but more to do with sales, networking, training, and motivation.
•• Network marketing fails both the Commandments of Control and Entry, and sometimes, Need.
•• Network marketers are soldiers in a Fastlaner’s army.
•• Network marketing is a powerful distribution system. As a Fastlaner, seek to own one, not join one.

Book Summary: The Real Anthony Fauci P.9

more than 200 studies supported COVID treatment with hydroxychloroquine, and 60 studies supported ivermectin. “We combined these medicines with doxycycline, azithromycin to suppress infection,” says McCullough. Another meta-analysis supported the use of prednisone and hydrocortisone and other widely available steroids to combat inflammation. Three studies supported the use of inhaled budesonide
against COVID; an Oxford University study published in February 2021 demonstrated that that treatment could reduce hospitalizations by 90 percent in low-risk patients, and a publication in April 2021 showed that recovery was faster for high-risk patients, too.

“We were able to show that doctors can work with four to six drugs in combination, supplemented by vitamins and nutraceuticals including zinc, vitamins D and C, and Quercetin. And they can guide patients at home, even the highest-risk seniors, and avoid a dreaded outcome of hospitalization and death,” said McCullough.

Independent physicians unaffiliated with the government or the universities that are so dependent on Dr. Fauci’s good favor were discovering new COVID treatments by the day. Researchers treated 738
randomly selected Brazilian COVID-19 patients with another adjuvant, fluvoxamine, identified early in the pandemic for its potential to reduce cytokine storms. Another 733 received a placebo between Jan. 20 and Aug. 6 of 2021. The researchers tracked every patient receiving fluvoxamine during the trial for 28 days and found about a 30-percent reduction in events among those receiving fluvoxamine compared to those who did not. Like almost all the other remedies, it is cheap and proven safe by long use. Fluvoxamine costs about $4 per 10-day course. Fluvoxamine has been used since the 1990s, and its safety profile is well known.

“Hydroxychloroquine and ivermectin are not necessary nor sufficient on their own—there are plenty of molecules that treat COVID,” says McCullough. “Even if hydroxychloroquine and ivermectin had become so politicized that no one wanted to allow these drugs to be used, we could use other drugs, anti-Inflammatories, antihistamines, as well as anti-coagulants and actually stop the illness and again, treat it to reduce hospitalization and death.”

When the pandemic started, most of the other medical practices in the Detroit area shut down, Dr. David Brownstein told me. “I had a meeting with my staff and my six partners. I told them, ‘We are going to stay open and treat COVID.’

We treated 715 patients and had ten hospitalizations and no deaths. Early treatment was the key. We weren’t allowed to talk about it. The whole medical establishment was trying to shut down early
treatment and silence all the doctors who talked about successes. A whole generation of doctors just stopped practicing medicine. When we talked about it, the whole cartel came for us.

I’ve been in litigation with the Medical Board for a year. When we posted videos from some of our
recovered patients, they went viral. One of the videos had a million views. FTC filed a motion against us, and we had to take everything down.”

In July 2020, Brownstein and his seven colleagues published a peer-reviewed article describing their stellar success with early treatment. FTC sent him a letter warning him to take it down. “No one wanted Americans to know that you didn’t have to die from COVID. It’s 100 percent treatable,” says Dr.
Brownstein. “We proved it. No one had to die.”⚰️

“Meanwhile,” adds Dr. Brownstein, “we’ve seen lots of really bad vaccine side effects in our patients. We’ve had seven strokes—some ending in severe paralysis. We had three cases of pulmonary embolism, two blood clots, two cases of Graves’ disease, and one death.”

Book Summary: The Power of Habit p10

Crises are such valuable opportunities that a wise leader often prolongs a sense of emergency on purpose.

By hiring psychologists who peddled vaguely scientific tactics they claimed could make customers spend more. Some of those methods are still in use today. If you walk into a Walmart, Home Depot, or your local shopping center and look closely, you’ll see retailing tricks that have been around for decades, each designed to exploit your shopping subconscious.

Take, for instance, how you buy food. Chances are, the first things you see upon entering your grocery
store are fruits and vegetables arranged in attractive, bountiful piles. If you think about it, positioning produce at the front of a store doesn’t make much sense, because fruits and vegetables bruise easily
at the bottom of a shopping cart; logically, they should be situated by the registers, so they come at the end of a trip. But as marketers and psychologists figured out long ago, if we start our shopping sprees by
loading up on healthy stuff, we’re much more likely to buy Doritos, Oreos, and frozen pizza when we encounter them later on. The burst of subconscious virtuousness that comes from first buying butternut
squash makes it easier to later put a pint of ice cream in the cart.

Take the way most of us turn to the right after entering a store. (Did you know you turn right? It’s almost certain you do. There are thousands of hours of videotapes showing shoppers turning right once they clear the front doors.) As a result of this tendency, retailers fill the right side of the stores with the most profitable products they’re hoping you’ll buy right off the bat.

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Book Summary: Daring Greatly p14

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DARING GREATLY:
APPRECIATING THE BEAUTY OF CRACKS

when it comes to hiding our flaws, managing perception, and wanting to win over folks, we’re all hustling a little. For some folks, perfectionism may only emerge when they’re feeling particularly vulnerable.

For others, perfectionism is compulsive, chronic, and debilitating—it looks and feels like an addiction.

Self-kindness: Being warm and understanding toward ourselves when we suffer, fail, or feel inadequate, rather than ignoring our pain or flagellating ourselves with self-criticism.
Common humanity: Common humanity recognizes that suffering and feelings of personal inadequacy are part of the shared human experience —something we all go through rather than something that happens to “me” alone.

Mindfulness: Taking a balanced approach to negative emotions so that feelings are neither suppressed nor exaggerated. We cannot ignore our pain and feel compassion for it at the same time. Mindfulness requires that we not “overidentify” with thoughts and feelings, so that we are caught up and swept away by negativity.

For me, it’s so easy to get stuck in regret or shame or self-criticism when I make a mistake.
But self-compassion requires an observant and accurate perspective when feeling shame or pain.

In addition to practicing self-compassion (and trust me, like gratitude and everything else worthwhile, it’s a practice), we must also remember that our worthiness, that core belief that we are enough, comes only when we live inside our story.

Perfectionism is exhausting because hustling is exhausting. It’s a never-ending performance.

“Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good.” A twenty-minute walk that I do is better than the four-mile
run that I don’t do. The imperfect book that gets published is better than the perfect book that never leaves my computer. The dinner party of take-out Chinese food is better than the elegant dinner that I never host.

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The Millionaire Fastlane: Chapters (29-30) Summary

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The Right Road
Routes to Wealth

He who chooses the beginning of the road
chooses the place it leads to.
It is the means that determines the end.
~ Henry Emerson Fosdick

The Road to Effection: The Five Fastlane Commandments:

1) The Commandment of Need
2) The Commandment of Entry
3) The Commandment of Control
4) The Commandment of Scale
5) The Commandment of Time

A road meeting all five commandments can make you filthy rich fast.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
•• Not all businesses are the right road. Few roads move at, through, or near the Law of Effection.
••The best roads and the purest Fastlanes satisfy the Five Fastlane Commandments: Need, Entry, Control, Scale, and Time.

The Commandment
of Need

What do we live for, if not to make life less difficult for each other?
~ George Eliot

Sand Foundations Crumble Houses
Ninety percent of all new businesses fail within five years, and I know why they fail. They fail because they fail the Commandment of Need.

Businesses that solve needs win. Businesses that provide value win.

To succeed as a producer, surrender your own selfishness and address the selfishness of others.

Stop Chasing Money—Chase Needs.

Stop thinking about business in terms of your selfish desires, whether it’s money, dreams or “do what you love.” Instead, chase needs, problems, pain points, service deficiencies, and emotions.

You and your business attract money when you stop being selfish and turn your business’s focus from the needs of yourself to the needs of other people. Give first, take second. Money Chasers Chase Money, Not Needs.

💰 To Attract Money Is to Forget About Money 💰

Solve needs massively and money massively attracts. The amount of money in your life is merely a reflection to the amount of value.

Make 1 million people achieve any of the following:

1) Make them feel better.
2) Help them solve a problem.
3) Educate them.
4) Make them look better (health, nutrition, clothing, makeup).
5) Give them security (housing, safety, health).
6) Raise a positive emotion (love, happiness, laughter, self-confidence).
7) Satisfy appetites, from basic (food) to the risqué (sexual).
8) Make things easier.
9) Enhance their dreams and give hope.

. . . and I guarantee, you will be worth millions.

Beware of another guru-speak: “Do what you love and the money will follow!” Bullshit.

The motivational fuel for the Fastlane is passion, not love. Passion gets you out of the garage and onto the road. If you have a passion for a specific goal, you’ll do anything for it. 💖

Passion beats “do what you love,” because passion fuels motivation for something greater than yourself and is generalized.

I repeat: Passion for an end goal, a why, drives Fastlane action.

Passion Erases the Suffering of Work

The Fastlane isn’t a destination but a personal journey.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
••The Commandment of Need states that businesses that solve needs win.
Needs can be pain points, service gaps, unsolved problems, or emotional disconnects.
•• Ninety percent of all new businesses fail because they are based on selfish internal needs, not external market needs.
•• No one cares about your selfish desires for dreams or money; people only want to know what your business can do for them.
•• Money chasers haven’t broken free from selfishness, and their businesses often follow their own selfish needs.
•• People vote for your business with their money.
•• Chase money and it will elude you. However, if you ignore it and focus on what attracts money, you will draw it to yourself.
•• Help one million people and you will be a millionaire.
•• For money to follow “Do what you love,” your love must solve a need and you must be exceptional at it.
••“Do what you love” sets the stage for crowded marketplaces with depressed margins.
••When you have the financial resources, you can “do what you love” and not get paid for it, nor do you have to be good at it.
•• Slowlaners feed “do what you love” with “do what you hate.” Five days of hate for two days of love.
••“Doing what you love” for money can endanger your love.
•• Passion for an end goal, a why, drives Fastlane success.
•• Having a passionate “why” can transform work into joy. ••“Doing what you love” usually leads to the violation of the Commandment of Need.
••The right road for you is one that will converge with your dreams.

Book Summary: The Real Anthony Fauci P.8

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Nursing Homes and Quarantine Facilities

“Half the deaths, in New York, and one-third nationally, were among elder care facility residents.”

Dr. Fauci made another inexplicable policy choice of not supplying the nursing homes with monoclonal antibodies where they might have saved thousands of lives. “With Operation Warp Speed, we had monoclonal antibodies that were high tech and fully FDA-approved by November 2020 —long before the vaccines,” says Dr. McCullough. “Monoclonal antibodies work great, but they’re not suitable for outpatients because they are administered IV It’s therefore perfect for nursing homes. About one-third of COVID deaths occurred in the nursing homes.

Dr. Fauci adopted this unprecedented protocol of telling doctors to let patients diagnosed with a positive COVID test go home, untreated—leaving them in terror, and spreading the disease—until breathing difficulties forced their return to hospitals. There they faced two deadly remedies: remdesivir and ventilators.

Dr. Fauci’s choice to deny infected Americans early treatment was not just a bad public health strategy; it was, McCullough avows, “Cruelty at a population level.” Says McCullough, “Never in history have doctors
deliberately treated patients with this kind of barbarism.”

McCullough continues, “If this had been any other form of pneumonia, a respiratory illness, or any other infectious illness in the human body, we know that if we start early, we can actually treat much more easily than wait until patients are very sick.” McCullough says that the rule holds true for COVID-19: “We learned quickly that it takes about two weeks for someone infected with COVID to get sick enough at home to require hospitalization.”

HHS’s early studies supported hydroxychloroquine’s efficacy against coronavirus since 2005, and by March 2020, doctors from New York to Asia were using it against COVID with extraordinary effect.

Asian nations were using saline nasal lavages to great effect to reduce viral loads and transmission.

Mass General’s infectious disease maven Dr. Michael Callahan had seen hundreds of patients in Wuhan in January 2020, and assessed the impressive efficacy of Pepcid, an over-the-counter indigestion medicine. The Japanese were already using Prednisone, Budesonide, and Famotidine with extraordinary results.

“It is extraordinary that Dr. Fauci never published a single treatment protocol before that,” says McCullough, “and that ‘America’s Doctor’ has never, to date, published anything on how to treat a COVID patient. It shocks the conscience that there is still no official protocol. Anyone who tries to publish a new treatment protocol will find themselves airtight blocked by the journals that are all under Fauci’s control.”

The Chinese made early treatment the central
priority of their COVID strategy. They used intense—and intrusive—trackand-trace surveillance to identify and then immediately hospitalize and treat every COVID-infected Chinese. Early treatment helped the Chinese to end their pandemic by April 2020.

Book Summary: Daring Greatly p13

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DARING GREATLY: PRACTICING GRATITUDE

Gratitude emerged from the data as the antidote to foreboding joy. In fact, every participant who spoke about the ability to stay open to joy also talked about the importance of practicing gratitude. This pattern of association was so thoroughly prevalent in the data that I made a commitment as a researcher not to talk about joy without talking about gratitude.

Participants described happiness as an emotion that’s connected to circumstances, and they described joy as a spiritual way of engaging with the world that’s connected to practicing gratitude.

Scarcity and fear drive foreboding joy. We’re afraid that the feeling of joy won’t last, or that there won’t be enough, or that the transition to disappointment (or whatever is in store for us next) will be too difficult.

I learned the most about gratitude practices and the relationship between scarcity and joy that plays out in vulnerability from the men and women who had experienced some of the most profound losses or survived the greatest traumas.

Joy comes to us in moments—ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.

Scarcity culture may keep us afraid of living small, ordinary lives, but when you talk to people who have survived great losses, it is clear that joy is not a constant.

Be grateful for what you have. 🌹

Don’t take what you have for granted— celebrate it. Don’t apologize for what you have. Be grateful for it and share your gratitude with others.

When you honor what you have, you’re honoring what I’ve lost.

Don’t squander joy. 🙂

We can’t prepare for tragedy and loss. When we turn every opportunity to feel joy into a test drive for despair, we actually diminish our resilience. Yes, softening into joy is uncomfortable. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it’s vulnerable. But every time we allow ourselves to lean into joy and give in to those moments, we build resilience and we cultivate hope. The joy becomes part of who we are, and when bad things happen—and they do happen—we are stronger.

THE SHIELD: PERFECTIONISM

The most valuable and important things in my life came to me when I cultivated the courage to be vulnerable, imperfect, and self-compassionate. Perfectionism is not the path that leads us to our gifts and to our sense of purpose; it’s the hazardous detour. Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving for excellence. Perfectionism is not about healthy achievement and growth.

Perfectionism is a defensive move. It’s the belief that if we do things perfectly and look perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame. Perfectionism is a twenty-ton shield that we lug around, thinking it will protect us, when in fact it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from being seen. Perfectionism is not self-improvement. Perfectionism is, at its core, about trying to earn approval.

Healthy striving is self- focused: How can I improve? Perfectionism is other-focused:
What will they think? Perfectionism is a hustle. Perfectionism is not the key to success.

Perfectionism is correlated with
depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis or missed opportunities. Where we struggle with perfectionism, we struggle with shame.

Perfectionism is a self-destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame. Perfectionism is self-destructive simply because perfection doesn’t exist.

Perfectionism actually sets us up to feel shame, judgment, and blame, which then leads to even more shame and self-blame: “It’s my fault. I’m feeling this way because I’m not good enough.”

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Book Summary: The Power of Habit p9

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Just as choosing the right keystone habits can create amazing change, the wrong ones can create disasters.

even destructive habits can be transformed by leaders who know how to seize the right opportunities. Sometimes, in the heat of a crisis, the right habits emerge.

Companies aren’t families. They’re battlefields in a civil war. Yet despite this capacity for internecine warfare, most companies roll along relatively peacefully, year after year, because they have routines— habits— that create truces that allow everyone to set aside their rivalries long enough to get a day’s work done. Organizational habits offer a basic promise: If you follow the established patterns and abide by the truce, then rivalries won’t destroy the company, the profits will roll in, and, eventually, everyone will get rich.

The problem with sabotage is that even if it’s good for you, it’s usually bad for the fi rm. So at most companies, an unspoken compact emerges: It’s okay to be ambitious, but if you play too rough, your peers will unite against you. On the other hand, if you focus on boosting your own department, rather than undermining your rival, you’ll probably get taken care of over time.

Most of the time, routines and truces work perfectly. Rivalries still exist, of course, but because of institutional habits, they’re kept within bounds and the business thrives. However, sometimes even a truce proves insufficient. Sometimes, an unstable peace can be as destructive as any civil war.

Truces are only durable when they create real justice. If a truce is unbalanced— if the peace isn’t real— then the routines often fail when they are needed most.

Creating successful organizations isn’t just a matter of balancing authority. For an organization to work, leaders must cultivate habits that both create a real and balanced peace and, paradoxically, make it absolutely clear who’s in charge.

Sometimes, one priority— or one department or one person or one goal— needs to overshadow everything else, though it might be unpopular or threaten the balance of power. Sometimes, a truce can create dangers that outweigh any peace.

During turmoil, organizational habits become malleable enough to both assign responsibility and create a more equitable balance of power. Crises are so valuable, in fact, that sometimes it’s worth stirring up a sense of looming catastrophe rather than letting it die down.

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