Book Summary: Daring Greatly p12

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THE VULNERABILITY

THE word persona is the Greek term for “stage mask.” In my work masks and armor are perfect metaphors for how we protect ourselves from the discomfort of vulnerability. Masks make us feel safer even when they become suffocating.

Vulnerability is the last thing I want you to see in me, but the first thing I look for in you.

Common vulnerability arsenal:

Foreboding joy: the paradoxical dread that clamps down on momentary joyfulness;

Perfectionism: believing that doing everything perfectly means you’ll never feel shame;

Numbing: the embrace of whatever deadens the pain of discomfort and pain.

THE COMMON VULNERABILITY SHIELDS

THE SHIELD: FOREBODING JOY

Joy is probably the most difficult emotion to really feel. 😎 Because when we lose the ability or willingness to be vulnerable, joy becomes something we approach with deep foreboding. We just know that we crave more joy in our lives, that we are joy starved.

What the perpetual-disappointment folks describe is this: “It’s easier to live disappointed than it is to feel disappointed. It feels more vulnerable to dip in and out of disappointment than to just set up camp there. You sacrifice joy, but you suffer less pain.”

Softening into the joyful moments of our lives requires vulnerability.

Once we make the connection between vulnerability and joy, the answer is pretty straightforward: We’re trying to beat vulnerability to the punch. We don’t want to be blindsided by hurt. We don’t want to be caught off-guard, so we literally practice being devastated or never move from self-elected disappointment.

We’re desperate for more joy, but at the same time we can’t tolerate the vulnerability.

We’re visual people. We trust, consume, and mentally store what we see. 👀

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Book Summary: The Power of Habit p8

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Starbucks taught their employees how to handle moments of adversity by giving them willpower habit loops. LATTE method: We Listen to the customer, Acknowledge their complaint, Take action by solving the problem, Thank them, and then Explain why the problem occurred.

There are learned habits to help baristas tell the difference between patrons who just want their coffee and those who need a bit more coddling.

This is how willpower becomes a habit: by choosing a certain behavior ahead of time, and then following that routine when an inflection point arrives.

When people are asked to do something that takes self- control, if they think they are doing it for personal reasons— if they feel like it’s a choice or something they enjoy because it helps someone else —it’s much less taxing. If they feel like they have no autonomy, if they’re just following orders, their willpower muscles get tired much faster.

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The Millionaire Fastlane: Chapters (21-23) Summary

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The Real Law of Wealth

Try not to become a man of success, but a man of value.
~ Albert Einstein

The Law of Effection states that the more lives you affect in an entity you control, in scale and/or magnitude, the richer you will become. Impact millions and make millions. It doesn’t get any simpler than that!

NET PROFIT = Units Sold (Scale) × Unit Profit (Magnitude)

Scale creates millionaires. Magnitude creates millionaires. Scale and magnitude creates billionaires.

Retrace the source of millionaire money and you will find millions of something.

The closer you get to the source of large numbers, the closer you will get to wealth. To serve millions is to make millions. Think big to earn big.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
••The Law of Effection states that the more lives you affect or breach, both in scale or magnitude, the richer you will be.
•• Scale translates to “units sold” of our profit variable within our Fastlane wealth equation. Magnitude translates to “unit profit” of our profit variable within our Fastlane wealth equation.
••The Law of Attraction is not a law, but a theory. The Law of Effection is absolute and operates exclusive of a roadmap.
••All lineages of self-made wealth trace back to the Law of Effection.
••The Law of Effection’s absoluteness comes from direct access and control (you are the athlete) versus indirect access (you are the athlete’s agent).
•• To make millions you must serve millions in scale or a few in magnitude.

Own Yourself First

Events and circumstances have their origin in ourselves.
They spring from seeds which we have sown.
~ Henry David Thoreau

To Pay Yourself First, You Must Own Yourself. When you have a job, someone owns you.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
••“Pay yourself first” is fundamentally impossible in a job.
•• To own your vehicle (you), start a corporation that formally divorces you from the act of business. Your corporation is the body of your surrogate.
••The recommended Fastlane business entity is a C corp, an S corp, or an LLC.

Life’s Steering Wheel

Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously.
If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life.
You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.
~ Robert F. Bennett

Poor choices are the leading cause of poorness. The problem is poor diet; cholesterol is the symptom.

If you aren’t where you want to be, the problem is your choices.

••The will to persevere is often the difference between failure and success.
•• Success means having the courage, the determination, and the will to become the person you believe you were meant to be.

Your choices spark the fires of future circumstances.

What’s Chosen Today, Impacts Forever. Our choices have consequences that transcend decades.

A Fastlane process is hundreds of choices.

Chapter Summary: Fastlane Distinctions
••The leading cause of poorness is poor choices.
••The steering wheel of your life is your choices.
••You are exactly where you chose to be.
•• Success is hundreds of choices that form process. Process forms lifestyle.
•• Choice is the most powerful control you have in your life.
•• Treasonous choices forever impact your life negatively.
••Your choices have significant horsepower, or trajectory into the future.
••The younger you are, the more potent your choices are and the more horsepower you possess.
•• Over time, horsepower erodes as the consequences of old choices are thick and hard to bend.

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Book Summary: The Real Anthony Fauci P.6

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Trust the Experts

Instead of citing scientific studies or clear data to justify mandates for masks, lockdowns, and vaccines, our medical rulers cited Dr. Fauci or WHO, CDC, FDA, and NIH—captive agencies—to legitimize the medical technocracy’s assumption of dangerous new powers.

Dr. Fauci’s aficionados, including President Biden and the cable and network news anchors, counseled Americans to “trust the experts.” Such advice is both anti-democratic and anti-science. Science is dynamic.
“Experts” frequently differ on scientific questions and their opinions can vary in accordance with and demands of politics, power, and financial self-interest. Telling people to “trust the experts” is either naive or manipulative— or both.

All of Dr. Fauci’s intrusive mandates and his deceptive use of data tended to stoke fear and amplify public desperation for the anticipated arrival of vaccines that would transfer billions of dollars from taxpayers to pharmaceutical executives and shareholders. 🤑

Anthony Fauci’s do-or-die obsession with novel mRNA vaccines—and Gilead’s expensive patented
antiviral, remdesivir—prompted him to ignore or even suppress effective early treatments, causing hundreds of thousands of unnecessary deaths while also prolonging the pandemic. ⚰️🥀

Fortifying Immune Systems

He never took time during his daily White House briefings from March to May 2020 to instruct Americans to avoid tobacco (smoking and e-cigarettes/vaping double death rates from COVID); to get plenty of sunlight and to maintain adequate vitamin D levels (“Nearly 60 percent of patients with COVID-19 were vitamin D deficient upon hospitalization, with men in the advanced stages of COVID-19 pneumonia showing the greatest deficit”); or to diet, exercise, and lose weight (78 percent of Americans hospitalized for COVID-19 were overweight or obese).

Dr. Fauci’s lockdowns caused Americans to gain an average of two pounds per month and to reduce their daily steps by 27 percent.

Zinc impedes viral replication, prophylaxing against colds and abbreviating their duration.

On April 30, 2021, Canadian Ontario College of Physicians and Surgeons threatened to delicense any doctor who prescribed non-vaccine health strategies including Vitamin D.

“They are trying to erase any notion of natural immunity,” says Canadian vaccine researcher Dr. Jessica Rose, Ph.D., MSc, BSc. “Pretty soon the incessant lies and propaganda will have successfully instilled in the masses that the only hope for staying alive is via injection, pill-popping, so in sum, no natural immunity.”

Throughout 2020, before vaccines were available, some 99.9 percent of people’s natural immune systems protected their owners from severe illness and death.

The CDC and World Health Organization, indeed all global health authorities, have recognized that healthy people, with healthy immune systems, bear minimal risk from COVID.

Instead of urging calm and telling us, as FDR did during the depths of the Depression, that “we have nothing to fear but fear itself,” all of Dr. Fauci’s prescriptions and communications seemed intended to maximize stress and trauma: enforced isolation, mandated masking, business closures, evictions and bankruptcies, lockdowns, and separating children from parents and parents from grandparents. We now know that fear, stress, and trauma wreak havoc on our immune systems.

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Book Summary: Daring Greatly p11

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research tells us that we judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame, especially picking folks who are doing worse than we’re doing.

If I feel good about my parenting, I have no interest in judging other people’s choices. If I feel good about my body, I don’t go around making fun of other people’s weight or appearance.

children who are engaging in the bullying behaviors or vying for social ranking by putting down others have parents who engage in the same behaviors.

Cultivating intimacy—physical or emotional—is almost impossible when our shame triggers meet head-on and create the perfect shame storm.

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them—we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. 💖💖💖

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged and healed.

But in practicing self-love over the past couple of years, I can say that it has immeasurably deepened my relationships with the people I love.

Shame is universal, but the messages and expectations that drive shame are organized by gender.

The expectations and messages that fuel shame keep us from fully realizing who we are as people.

If we’re going to find our way out of shame and back to each other, vulnerability is the path and courage is the light. To set down those lists of what we’re supposed to be is brave. To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.

Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out, and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real, you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

💖🌹 Dare 🌹💖

Book Summary: The Power of Habit p7

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Small wins are part of how keystone habits create widespread changes. A huge body of research has shown that small wins have enormous power, an influence disproportionate to the accomplishments of the victories themselves. “Small wins are a steady application of a small advantage,”

Concentrate on tiny moments of success and build them into mental triggers.

Keystone habit creates a structure that helps other habits to flourish.

At the core of that Starbucks education is an intense focus on an all- important habit: willpower. Dozens of studies show that willpower is the single most important keystone habit for individual success.

Students who exerted high levels of willpower were more likely to earn higher grades in their classes and gain admission into more selective schools.

“Highly self-disciplined adolescents outperformed their more impulsive peers on every academic- performance variable.” Self- discipline has a bigger effect on academic performance than does intellectual talent.”

And the best way to strengthen willpower and give students a leg up, studies indicate, is to make it into a habit.

Willpower is a learnable skill, something that can be taught the same way kids learn to do math and say “thank you.” As willpower muscles strengthened, good habits seemed to spill over into other parts of life.

“When you learn to force yourself to go to the gym or start your homework or eat a salad instead of a hamburger, part of what’s happening is that you’re changing how you think. People get better at regulating their impulses. They learn how to distract themselves from temptations. And once you’ve gotten into that willpower groove, your brain is practiced at helping you focus on a goal.”

“When you learn to force yourself to practice for an hour or run fifteen laps, you start building
self- regulatory strength. A five- year- old who can follow the ball for ten minutes becomes a sixth grader who can start his homework on time.”

Firms such as Starbucks— and the Gap, Wal- Mart, restaurants, or any other business that relies on entry- level workers— all face a common problem: No matter how much their employees want to do a great job, many will fail because they lack self- discipline. They show up late. They snap at rude customers. They get distracted or drawn into workplace dramas. They quit for no reason.

If someone has trouble with self- discipline at work, they’re probably also going to have trouble attending a program designed to strengthen their self- discipline after work.

The solution, Starbucks discovered, was turning self- discipline into an organizational habit.

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